There are enough disruptions in families, divergent life-styles, and differences in society and in the Church that young people may not meet others with similar backgrounds. In contrast, many happily married couples will tell you that their first meeting was anything but ideal.
How Does Courtship Work? Whatever you do—stay visible. God wants to guide every man and woman to His best provision for each of them. And so we become prone to find fault. Seek spiritual confirmation wisely. The unmarried couple can talk together without being required to agree, inviting free discussion from both sides.
They should be especially careful in this case to make sure a potential partner has the traits of good character, such as kindness, integrity, and diligence. Their mentors should guide the couple, helping them keep on track and stay focused on the goals of a Biblical courtship.
I can see you. As soon as he became a whole person, confident within himself, he became very appealing and attractive to me. Kimball, p.